Thank you for sharing in the midst of your heart break. As you share vulnerably of your loss, I feel a strange comfort that meets me in my own grief. I’m very sorry for your loss.
The best thing about a valley is they carry sound. I like to imagine that we may feel alone in our valleys, but that they are parallel and we can hear each other’s song, keeping us company until the landscape finally joins us together 😌👏🏻
Wow I needed that. My dad passed in October of 2023. I talked to him in August and he asked me to come see him. I couldn't because I just started a new job. I could tell in his voice that something was different. He took his life in October. He was struggling with the effects on his body from diabetes and was tired. Would he still be here had I gone to see him? I ask this every day. I miss him. And yes, he was far from perfect but all I can think of is the good.
This line especially: "I think our minds and hearts hold on to the good because that’s what matters."
My dad passed away in November 2020 and the grief of losing him is still as it was the day I found out. Although sometimes weeks and months pass by without "feeling the intense pain" when grief hits, it's all the same.
I can definitely relate in how you mentioned you had a complicated relationship with your dad. And despite this, when I think of him I only remember all the best memories with him. When he was alive, I had held onto anger, resentment, and disappointment. But when he passed... I just thought of all the times he was there for me, showing love the best way he could.
you're definitely right that probably, it's the good that matters.
Thanks for sharing this piece, Caroline. Sending my love from the Philippines :)
Beautiful post and tribute, Caroline. My sweet dad died from Alzheimer’s three months after we lost Joel. The ravages of addiction and Alzheimer’s had so many parallels and similarities- cruel, “person-robbing” diseases. I know they are together, drinking coffee with my mom on a big, wooden porch, telling stories about all of us. ❤️
Yes, really interesting and heart-wrenching parallels there. So grateful to connect with you here and in a shared experience of grief. Though our stories may not be similar, our humanity is. Sending love.
This was so timely for me as I grieve the visible decline of an elderly loved-one. Thank you for being vulnerable enough to share your heart with us so that we can join you in your sorrow -- and as you said, not be alone in it. I am truly sorry for your loss. You are not alone, and now that you’ve shared your heart, neither am I.
Reading this brought me great comfort today. I'm approaching the 5-year anniversary of my dad's death.
After he died, I gave a copy of C.S Lewis' A Grief Observed to each of my siblings. I wrote a little note in the front cover for each of them. Things unique about their relationship with Dad.
I think I'm going to pick up that book this week. Thanks, Caroline.
Beautiful share and I’m sorry for your losses, too. One of the very tough parts of being human, but your words are so true, their memories can live on in love. 💓🙏🏼
Thank you for sharing in the midst of your heart break. As you share vulnerably of your loss, I feel a strange comfort that meets me in my own grief. I’m very sorry for your loss.
Sending love to you sweet friend. I’d love to connect offline if you’d like 💓
The best thing about a valley is they carry sound. I like to imagine that we may feel alone in our valleys, but that they are parallel and we can hear each other’s song, keeping us company until the landscape finally joins us together 😌👏🏻
Wow I needed that. My dad passed in October of 2023. I talked to him in August and he asked me to come see him. I couldn't because I just started a new job. I could tell in his voice that something was different. He took his life in October. He was struggling with the effects on his body from diabetes and was tired. Would he still be here had I gone to see him? I ask this every day. I miss him. And yes, he was far from perfect but all I can think of is the good.
I’m so honored to hear part of your story and your father’s. Grief is, indeed, a long valley. Pray that you continue to hold on to the good.
Caroline, thank you.
I am sorry for the valley you are walking through. Every word was touching.
I was honored to read your vulnerable words that flowed from layers of heartfelt memories.
Thank you for connecting 💓appreciate your kind words 🙏🏼
Hi Caroline. I love this piece.
This line especially: "I think our minds and hearts hold on to the good because that’s what matters."
My dad passed away in November 2020 and the grief of losing him is still as it was the day I found out. Although sometimes weeks and months pass by without "feeling the intense pain" when grief hits, it's all the same.
I can definitely relate in how you mentioned you had a complicated relationship with your dad. And despite this, when I think of him I only remember all the best memories with him. When he was alive, I had held onto anger, resentment, and disappointment. But when he passed... I just thought of all the times he was there for me, showing love the best way he could.
you're definitely right that probably, it's the good that matters.
Thanks for sharing this piece, Caroline. Sending my love from the Philippines :)
- your VV Visionaries Sister,
Gabi
All the love to you, sweet sister. I’m so glad you connected with this 💓
Beautiful post and tribute, Caroline. My sweet dad died from Alzheimer’s three months after we lost Joel. The ravages of addiction and Alzheimer’s had so many parallels and similarities- cruel, “person-robbing” diseases. I know they are together, drinking coffee with my mom on a big, wooden porch, telling stories about all of us. ❤️
Yes, really interesting and heart-wrenching parallels there. So grateful to connect with you here and in a shared experience of grief. Though our stories may not be similar, our humanity is. Sending love.
This was so timely for me as I grieve the visible decline of an elderly loved-one. Thank you for being vulnerable enough to share your heart with us so that we can join you in your sorrow -- and as you said, not be alone in it. I am truly sorry for your loss. You are not alone, and now that you’ve shared your heart, neither am I.
Sending love to you as you process, too🙏🏼💓thanks for sharing your heart ☀️
Reading this brought me great comfort today. I'm approaching the 5-year anniversary of my dad's death.
After he died, I gave a copy of C.S Lewis' A Grief Observed to each of my siblings. I wrote a little note in the front cover for each of them. Things unique about their relationship with Dad.
I think I'm going to pick up that book this week. Thanks, Caroline.
Beautiful share and I’m sorry for your losses, too. One of the very tough parts of being human, but your words are so true, their memories can live on in love. 💓🙏🏼